It's OK to Get Mad Just don't stay that way. Rude drivers, inconsiderate co-workers, disobedient children, unexpected bills—triggers like these can make even mild-tempered people hot under the collar. It's OK to get angry. But don't let it get the best of you. Anger initiates the "fight or flight" response, and unfortunately, neither the fight response (screaming or hitting) nor flight response (bottling it up) is healthy or productive. And experiencing feelings of anger on a regular basis can lead to headaches, indigestion, heartburn, high blood pressure, skin problems, even heart attacks and strokes. Janet Pfeiffer, author of The Secret Side of Anger, offers tips on nixing the negative effects of anger. "The moment you feel anger well up inside you, remember SWaT: Stop, Walk and Talk," she says. "Stop what you are doing. This prevents the situation from escalating. Next, walk away. Creating distance allows you to calm down and cool off. Third: Talk yourself calm. Discuss your feelings and situation with a neutral party, seeking deeper understanding and guidance. If no one is available, talk to yourself. Repeat calming statements such as 'I am fine. I am calm. I can handle this in an intelligent and rational manner.'" Another tactic: laughter. A little comic relief can ease tensions. But researchers at the University of Maryland School of Medicine found laughter offers real physical benefits. While mental stress like anger can constrict blood vessels and reduce blood flow, the study revealed laughter has the opposite effect, with benefits similar to those attained through aerobic activity, says Dr. Michael Miller, the study's principal investigator. "We don't recommend that you laugh and not exercise," he says. "But we do recommend that you try to laugh on a regular basis. Thirty minutes of exercise three times a week, and 15 minutes of laughter on a daily basis, is probably good for the vascular system." |
| Why do you want to learn how to be a loser? you ask. We learn from both examples and warnings. This post provides you both. It's good to know how to be a loser so, 1) you could do the opposite and 2) you can check to be sure you aren't doing those things yourself. I remember Jim Rohn saying that it's too bad failures don't give seminars. He would say, "If you meet a guy who has messed up his life for forty years, you've just got to say, 'John, if I bring my journal and promise to take good notes, would you spend a day with me? Tell me how a good-looking guy like you with a beautiful family, everything going for him messed up his life so bad. What did you do? What do you read? What do you eat? What type of people do you hang out with? What do you do with your free time? What TV programs, newspapers, and radio programs do you spend time with? Wouldn't that information be valuable? Find out and then DON'T DO those things." Great strategy. Here's some loser training tips to get you started: Take it day by day. Don't bother with setting goals, making plans and preparing. Just wake up each morning and figure out what you want to do then. Seek comfort. Growth and progress requires work, stress and struggle. Forget it. Stay comfy instead. Don't believe in anything. It's easier to be...  |
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